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Hello, My pet. Below is part of your required reading before you send an application to see Me for an in-person experience. Be sure to read everything on this page and read more About Me and explore the experiences I offer before you send in your application.
If you have a question that you cannot find the answer to here, you may send Me an email at thatmeanredhead@proton.me with your inquiry.
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I made a move across the pond from the states (sooner than expected!) and am taking applications in the EU. I am based in Dublin and accepting applications in Berlin and London, and wherever I may be summoned by a good pet.
Dublin as of now has no rental dungeons available for sessions, and I require an AirBnB or upscale hotel to be booked by the applicant to serve as our play space.
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I offer in person BDSM sessions in private rental dungeons in Berlin and London, and in upscale hotels/AirBnB rentals (covered by applicant) in Dublin/Ireland. I also offer Digital Domination.
Below is a list of all BDSM and fetish activities that I offer in sessions. There are asterisks next to My personal favorites/specialties.
Age Play (ABDL/Mommy roleplay)
Anal Training*
Ass worship (clothed only)
Bastinado*
Bisexual fantasies/bisexual encouragement
Behavioral Modification Training
Blood Play*
Bondage* (leather bondage, straightjackets, metal restraints, St. Andrew’s Crosses, bondage chairs)
Breath Play/Control
Castration Fantasy
Cash Meets*
Chastity (long and short term)
CBT/CBB* (Cock and Ball Torture/Bondage/Busting)
Degradation (Verbal, physical, psychological)
Discipline and Obedience Training
Edge Play* (can include extreme sadism, abduction fantasies, consensual non-consent, psychological scenes, dark roleplay and more)
Exhibitionism/Public Play (within limits)
Feminization*
Financial Domination* (Lifestyle contracts, ATM training, drains and large tributes)
Fisting
Foot Fetish/Foot Worship*
Golden Showers*
Hair Fetish* (armpits, bush, legs, curly hair)
Humiliation* (sexual, verbal, psychological)
Interrogation Fantasies
Latex Fetish
Leather Fetish*
Medical Fetish/Medical Roleplay
Mummification
Objectification* (footstool, lamp, ashtray etc)
Pet Play* (puppy, kitten, piggy, pony etc)
Piercing Play* (temporary piercings with play needles)
Redhead Fetish* (We are rare and stunning - let Me exploit your fixation on My natural curly red hair)
Roleplay* (I especially enjoy gothic/dark fantasy roleplay, eg vampire roleplay)
Sensation Play* (including sensory overwhelm, sensory deprivation)
Sounding (ONLY with My own kit - I do not use kits that I have not personally cleaned and sanitized Myself)
Tease and Denial
Tickling
Trampling (Barefoot or in Boots/Heels)
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I do not entertain the following fetishes/kinky activities:
Race play (eg “BBC” fantasies, cuckcolding fantasies with emphasis on “BBC” or Black men, racial humiliation, “aryan goddess” fantasies)
Absolutely no requests to eat My ass or pussy, no requests for “oral worship” or “forced oral”
Fetish wrestling
Humiliation centered on weight, religion or disability
Full Toilet Training/Hardsports
Real Blackmail (fantasy is fine!)
Roman showers/vomit
Rope suspension/advanced rope bondage
Whips - I have old repetitive stress injuries that affect My thumbs and elbows in such a way that makes whipping an unsafe activity for Me. This may change as I build strength and skills and find whips that work within My limitations
I do not respond to applications that contain the phrase “do whatever you want to me” or “I have no limits.” Consensual non-consent is one thing, but it is another to not understand what is at stake in BDSM play and to invite emotional distress or unpleasant experiences upon yourself by not having any boundaries.
I do not respond well to demanding and non-submissive bottoms, for example if you use phrases like “tell me to do ___”, “force me to___", “say it again louder goddess”, know that this kind of dialogue that polices My tone and demeanor is not enjoyable for Me.
I do not tolerate homophobia, transphobia, racism, xenophobia, or religious discrimination in people I play with.
I love leather, protocol and uniforms, but any white supremacist symbolism and/or Nazi imagery or roleplay is off-limits.
I do not entertain romantic relationships with My clients, and try to keep the details of My personal life to Myself, except within My trusted circle.
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My time starts at €1000/2 hours, + €350 for each hour after 2 hours.
Rates are not up for negotiation, and any attempt to haggle or negotiate will result in a cutoff in communication.
When travelling, I search for rental dungeons in whatever city I am in. If no rental dungeons are available, I am available for incalls in My lodging or for outcalls in upscale hotel rooms or AirBnb spaces. The cost of any rental spaces, dungeons or otherwise, will be covered up front by the applicant.
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A 20% deposit is required with every booking. Deposits are required and non-negotiable.
Any costs for rental dungeon spaces will be paid up front by the applicant in addition to their 20% deposit.
For all travel inquiries, 50% of the donation value is required up front. It is also expected that the applicant will cover the cost of all travel, lodging and transportation up front.
Deposits can be sent via payment apps of My choice or through My Wishlist. I will send you My preferred payment method after I receive your screening materials and application form.
Deposits are refundable and may be rolled over to a future session if the applicant gives ample notice of rescheduling (at least a week.) Day-of cancellations or no-shows forfeit their deposit.
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Note that if you fail to meet these requirements when you send your application, it will be ignored.
If you have prior references, I require the following:
A completed form with references’ names/contact info (please contact them for permission first!) sent through this website, found here.
A photo of your ID so I may verify your name and age. you may blur out your address or other data if you’d like, I only need to verify your date of birth and name.
If you do not have references, I require the following:
15 minute paid phone consultation with Me so I may assess our compatibility.
A completed application form found on this website. Fill out the form on My website and select the 15 minute consult option. Tell Me in your other answers why you have decided to pursue My services.
you must also send a selfie with your photo of your ID, and/or send Me a LinkedIn profile so I may verify you.
The most secure way for Me to verify your identity is if you create a Protonmail or Tuta Nota account to send encrypted and private emails. No personal information or photos are kept for My use, and all personal information, applications and photos are deleted after screening is completed.
Any haggling about screening requirements is not tolerated.
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Detailed and more in-depth communication about activities and our time together occur only after I have received a deposit and we have scheduled a date.
I prefer scheduling at least 2 weeks in advance of your earliest desired date.
I require a confirmation of our meeting 24 hours before our session. The session is automatically cancelled if you are more than 15 minutes late for our appointment with no communication about your tardiness. Any no-call/no-shows will not will not be considered for future sessions.
If I am sick, or if you are sick, I am happy to apply your deposit to a rescheduled session.
For sessions in My established city (Chicago now, Brussels 2027) a cancellation less than 24 hours before our scheduled time is considered a late cancellation, and your deposit will be forfeit.
Timely cancellations will receive their deposits, or will be free to roll their deposits over to a future session.
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50% of your donation is required up front for FMTY (Fly Me to you) requests. All travels costs (plane tickets, taxis, meals, lodging) will be covered up front by the applicant.
For any requests outside Dublin, I require a booking of at least 3-4 hrs. For longer travel iteneraries, I require longer bookings if I am not on tour (at least 8hrs.)
If you fly Me to you, please note that I need at least one full day to rest and recover after travelling so I can be fully restored and rested for our time together.
My dream travel requests are to Aotearoa (New Zealand) and Japan.
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All applicants must go through a screening process to see Me.
The process is very simple: apply and send screening info, receive a reply with deposit details if I want to see you, send a deposit via My preferred payment method, and then wait for our agreed date with breathless anticipation.
Screening Requirements:
Send a photo of your government issued ID to my secure Protonmail (thatmeanredhead@proton.me.) I strongly suggest making a Protonmail or Tuta Mail account if you have privacy concerns. you’re welcome to block out or cover certain parts of your ID that you do not want Me to view (eg address), but I must be able to verify your name and age. All screening material will be deleted after I verify your information. This is required even if you include a reference/references in your application - if you are contacting Me for the first time, it is necessary that you verify your identity.
Complete and submit the form on this website detailing your background, kinks and desires for our time together.
Please request dates at least two weeks in advance so I may plan with greater ease and have time to check any references you have listed.
After I receive your screening materials, I will reply within 48hrs if I want to see you.
A deposit is required for all sessions. See My deposit policy for details.
After I have screened and verified your identity and received your deposit, I will be available and happy to communicate via email about our upcoming time together.
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Before our session: please make sure that you are hydrated and have eaten, and that you arrive well-rested. See this blog most from Mistrix Sunmi about proper cleaning techniques to prep for certain activites: ttps://mistrixsunmi.com/Blog-27
Upon first meeting, you will be taken by My curly red hair, penetrating blue eyes and playfully perverse and inquisitive demeanor. I enjoy taking in your body language, subliminal queues and tuning into your needs and desires moment by moment.
My style is cruel yet tender and nurturing. My role is as your guide, confidant, and as a powerful creative perverse force that encourages you to explore the darker, deeper parts of yourself.
you should expect to communicate openly, honestly and thoroughly about your desires and limits. I will likely ask dozens of questions in our initiation meeting to be better equipped to get into your head.
I expect all individuals who see Me in person to write a follow-up email about our session - this is an opportunity to connect and reminisce about our highs together, and is a chance to give Me feedback about your experience. This is especially helpful for future sessions, as your feedback allows Me to hone My craft and use you more efficiently for My pleasure and amusement. -
First and foremost, I enjoy playing with individuals who have a strong set of principles and who respect others’ humanity, especially those different from themselves.
If you want to learn more about My top personal kinks, please visit My About Me page.
Most of all I crave pets who love service and being useful - especially those who know the difference between being a bottom and being a submissive type.
Visit My Lifestyle Training page for information about what I enjoy in My D/s dynamics.
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The only difference in the application process is that a paid 15 minute phone consultation and a selfie with your ID is required if you have no prior references from BDSM professionals. you can select the 15 minute consult option in the form on this website when you decide to take the plunge and apply.
I encourage you to examine My Resource page if you are a newcomer to the world of BDSM.
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The short answer is almost certainly no - but there is always a possibility of earning this privilege with time, investment, trust and discipline.
A lifestyle D/s dynamic is a constant practice and craft. Learn more by visiting My Lifestyle Training page.